I'm vanessa

Fighting for my life after everything I built was stolen from me.

truth teller.  

fighter.

woman on a warpath

SEEKER OF JUSTICE.

empath.

Why doesn’t she just leave?  She would if she could.  Leaving isn’t a single decision — it’s a hundred impossible ones stacked on top of each other. Leaving is more than knowing what door to use and when to use it.  When you’re in an abusive “relationship” built on coercive control, you don’t just lose […]

Domestic Violence

Why doesn’t she just leave? 

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I have to wash the clothes that he tells me to wash where he wants me to wash them. I’ve done laundry twice in 5 months, and he hides all of his quarters from me. He turned the water off and hid the hose so I had no access to water. I have to eat […]

Coercive Control, Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse

Hose Hider

I have learned that I can’t trust anyone, I do not deserve to have the things I want in life, or to be happy.I have learned that I do not deserve to feel joy, stability, or contented.I do not deserve the lifestyle that I want, and for one fleeting moment in my life, actually had.I […]

Domestic Violence, Wrongful Evictions

Lessons Learned

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I have gone over 30 days without having access to resources to buy myself food, buy my dogs food, or put gas in my car. I am officially 3 months behind on my rent and I am going to be evicted; he has taken everything from me, and my home will be the last thing. […]

Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse

There’s Nothing Left

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Emotional abuse is incredibly difficult to explain – specifically narcissistic abuse. It’s next to impossible, and there is very little awareness about it. Narcissists are calculated, manipulative, and the malignant kind are very dangerous. I was pulled over a few nights ago and was told that my car wasn’t registered; he had put my car […]

Coercive Control, Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse

Abuse

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I’m sorry that your help comes with a price that I am no longer able to pay.  I’m sorry that I am in a depression so severe that I cannot function.I’m sorry that I have not slept in 2 days.I’m sorry I am unable to get out of bed except to use the bathroom.I’m sorry […]

Coercive Control, Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, Trapped

Apologies

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